RAYA GATHERING

Just back to KL after long holiday. Well, during Raya we just stay at home and having barbeque for diner. This due to my eldest brother not recovering from injury i.e. falling from roof tops i.e. his knee/pelvic bone fracture. So we cannot go anywhere for family trip or outing. After finish our session on request for forgiveness to the eldest and everybody, we doing our own things. After this week, my mum will be left alone again; all my siblings will be heading back to their own house.

I’ve a chat with mum during our visit to the memorial park, visiting the grave of my Dad, Grandma/Pa. She said that she don’t know whether she is still available to see my Shea & Avee going to school which expected to be next 3-4 years. Hmmh.. I told her, not to worry she will be there to witness it. She just smiles while looking at me, that smile remind me that she knows that I’m talking shit as usual. Were thinking to bring her for a vacation next year maybe I’ll organize a family trip for mum & my siblings somewhere on Mar/Apr next year, cheap air fares whatelse..hehehe.

Back to Hari Raya gathering, this special day is specifically tribute to the Eldest in that generation or family, since mum still there, the function of parent is still exist although dad’s not available, dad’s function is taken over by my eldest brother and his wife. Once mum’s no longer there, the 1st generation disappear and the 2nd generation will take over. The “weight of balik kampong” is no longer there and it’s solely depends on the siblings either they want to defend the current culture or they free to do their own things with their family. I’ll choose to defend the current culture and let my children learn and aware that obedient and respect of the eldest is a must in a family.

In life, we have to face several process of maturity and it all depends on our willingness to accept it and will power to face it, either its negative or positive it’s totally depend on our perception. Good or bad is just perception in life. Sometimes good thing we perceived is bad for the other people and same goes to bad things happen in life, sometime it’s good for other people who face it. In life just accept what it is in front of us and the nature will make us understand more. Same goes to process of implementation!

These remind me to my sister, her husband is a polygamist practitioner and she is still in a state of denial and cannot accept the truth in life that she is now facing. Result for not accepting it, she lost her mind, always tense & stressful. Phobia of meeting people, prejudice of people looking down/bad at her, talk nonsense, unfocus attention each time she converse when meeting people is a result of how bad that she need a psychiatric treatment. Now she is totally lost in space and against nature. As what my bro G mentioned, the hubby is responsible to bring her meeting the psychiatric specialist. Hmmh I’m agreed with that, married for all this long years, at least he should be more responsible by bringing her as a 1st wife to see a doctor. Its his rights anyway, he is the one who marry her and take her away from the family, most of the siblings cannot do anything because in our culture, she is no more in the family - She is a wife to somebody. The hubby is the one who spark the fire, also known as the “holy man” who can marry more than one, so he should take that rights and protect her.

Personal Notes:

Perception of any women in this world - relationship, love and life cannot be shared. To accept a husband who’s having 3 more wives after her without her noticing it? It’s really a joke and disaster.

Hmmh… against nature means disrespect, dishonest, disloyal; disobey the nature rules and regulation. What to do, what comes around turns around. Rule of Nature!

Sincere is a words, implement it is another!